Sunday, June 20, 2010 | By: BlackGargie

8 Sex Moves Every Woman Should Try Once

Got this from here. Just wanna share it for fun:

From PG flirting tactics to R-rated sex tricks, these must-try ideas are guaranteed to put you in the mood. Try them tonight—and thank us in the morning.

PG: Slip into something unexpectedly sexy.
Sure, sexy lingerie is, well, sexy. But another surprisingly sexy sight to guys is you—freshly showered, no makeup, says relationship expert Lainie Speiser, author of Hot Games. Who can resist a woman who’s just soaped, shaved and shampooed herself to perfection? If you live with your guy, take your time and make a ritual out of your shower. Leave the bathroom door cracked so he can catch a glimpse of you slathering lotion on your body. If you’re dating, greet him at the door just out of the shower, with your hair loosely tied back, and wear something feminine like a clingy spaghetti-strap slip.

PG: Give him goose bumps.
Vixenish back scratching is best left to romance novels and porn; a better way to stimulate your guy is with a light touch. The next time you’ve having sex, wrap your arms around him and gently drag your nails across his back, butt or thighs from top to bottom, applying as little pressure as possible. The slight touch will send shivers down his spine…and enhance the feeling of everything else.

PG-13: Sneak in double entendres.
Want to get your guy’s attention? Try using suggestive words—the kind with dual meanings—mixed into normal conversation, says relationship expert Steve Santagati, of badboysfinishfirst.com. Whether it’s your first or your 90th date, it’s a great way to get your guy thinking about sex. Ask him for a back rub because your neck is stiff. Or have him help you fill in a crossword puzzle that’s too hard. We know—it sounds like a ridiculous plan, but if you can get over the giggle factor, it could really pay off. “You may not understand why men like this kind of talk, but trust me, it will wake us up and get the juices flowing for foreplay,” Santagati says.

PG-13: Add an element of mystery to your date.
Next time you’re out to dinner or at a bar with your man, pretend to be someone else. Act like a would-be secretary at a job interview and say, “Thank you so much for taking the time to meet with me. I feel I would get a lot of benefits from working under you,” suggests Speiser. He may laugh first, but he’ll eventually play along…and get turned on. Another option: When you return from the bathroom, purposely bump into him and pretend you’ve never met. Flirt with him as if it’s the first time you’ve laid eyes on each other. “It will arouse the both of you and breathe a new kind of excitement into a regular Saturday night,” she adds.

R: Create unconventional handcuffs.
Straddle your guy during your next bedroom session and begin to pull off his shirt. As it reaches his wrists, stop pulling. Grab the shirt with one hand (grasp the part in the middle between his arms) and use it to pin his wrists back to the bed like makeshift handcuffs. The more confident you are about doing it, the better. You’ll be in control, and he won’t have a clue what hit him. But he’ll like it.

R: Talk but don’t touch.
Try this for foreplay: Stare directly at your man when he’s lounging on the couch. “Ask him to tell you, in vivid detail, what he’d like to do to you, or vice versa,” says Santagati. Feel free to take your time, listen to music, drink a glass of wine—but don’t touch each other. See how long it takes before one of you can’t resist the temptation
any longer.

R: Try a champagne kiss.
Remember that bottle of champagne you’ve had chilling in the fridge since New Year’s Eve? Now’s the time to use it—pour two glasses and sip casually. Then turn up the heat by straddling him, taking a gulp of bubbly and leaning over and kissing your man. As you do, “let a tiny amount of champagne trickle into his mouth,” says Tracey Cox, author of Supersex. The fizzy texture and cool temperature will take your kiss to a new level of sexy.

R: Practice delayed gratification.
Next time you feel like snapping a naughty photo of yourself, don’t e-mail or text it to your man right way. Wait until you’re in the same room, restaurant or building and then go ahead and hit Send—it’s so unexpected that way! “It’s more effective than you would think because he’ll know he can’t do anything about it,” says Santagati. “The act of sex is best when anticipated and held off for a bit.”

Eight Secret Things Men Want from Love

An article I found from MSN Lifestyle based on a single guy's POV:

Four Reasons to Find The One:

1. Nobody likes to hear their own biography. Again. And again. Meeting new prospects inevitably leads to recycling stories, like the one about my prize-winning stamp collection (hilarious the first 40 times, I swear).

2. Sleeping with the same woman isn't just safer — it's better. Consider my last real relationship: In the early days of sex, she bypassed quite a few of my favorite places to be touched, while my foreplay maneuvers nearly put her to sleep. As a one-night stand I would've been left cold, but after some practice, we were on fire.

3. Men can be delusional. Not "I can bend this spoon with my mind" nuts, but certainly "I can wear skinny jeans" misinformed. Trust me, guys need a straight-shooting woman to tell us we're crazy.

4. That creepy old dude hitting on college girls? We live in abject fear of becoming him. Just when I think I'm cool with not finding The One, I see That Guy. And he gives me the willies. Yet I can't deny the allure of the following …

Four Reasons to Just Have Fun:

1. A new woman is the world's greatest mystery. What's she going to be like? What's sexy about her? What's weird? A favorite memory: the brunette I met at a bar who rubbed hot candle wax onto my hand without ever speaking. If you're the slightest bit fascinated by people — not just the opposite sex — dating has an intoxicating appeal.

2. I know only six songs on guitar. And if someone sticks around, she'll have to witness the painful process of my learning a seventh. Then, I'll be exposed for the hack that I am — which, let's face it, is the perfect metaphor for what's so scary about love.

3. I don't want to watch the freaking Hills. Or brush my teeth before bed. Or turn down MGMT. Being in a relationship means making compromises. And it should. Dating means never having to negotiate. Selfish — but satisfying.

4. I was overstating that sex thing I said earlier. For all the perks of getting to know one person, there's a thrill in someone new — and any guy who says otherwise is lying. When I meet a woman, I'm guilty of the following: I wonder how she'll sound in bed, what she's going to do to me and how she'll react to what I do to her. (I have been known to wonder about these things as she's describing the little town where she grew up.) The last thing I want to do is settle down before I've gotten all of this irresponsible behavior out of my system. The love of my life, whoever she is, surely deserves better than that.

9 Outfits You Should Never (Ever) Wear on a Date

Another article from here. Just for fun

Stripper heels and micro-shorts
I went on a date this summer with a girl wearing short shorts and four-inch heels. It was like she got distracted halfway through getting dressed and forgot to finish the process—and the result was ├╝ber-trashy. Not exactly take-home-to-Mom material.

—George, 29

Distracting (and potentially dangerous) accessories
The only time I was on a date and I thought, What was she thinking? was when the girl showed up wearing a Gilligan-esque bucket hat and strange cloglike shoes that she tripped over the entire night. The major takeaway from this story: Don’t wear anything below the ankles that was inspired by the Dutch.

—John, 22

All your favorite trends—at once
My date once wore Uggs, a long, giant wooden beaded necklace and big, bug-eyed sunglasses. Worn separately they might have been fine, but together it spelled disaster.

—Matthew, 29

Whale-tail-flaunting pants
Thongs: They have their place. But that place isn’t five inches above low-riding jeans. Belts were invented for a very, very good reason.

—Glenn, 35

OshKosh B’Gosh-inspired gear
I would be mortified if a girl showed up to a date in overalls. I can’t think of any legitimate occasion—outside of milking cows—where that dress code would be considered appropriate. And if our date did involve milking cows, I think I have bigger concerns than what she’s wearing.

—Stephen, 23

Harem pants
Those weird high-waisted pants that get wide in the legs and then taper at the ankle? Those are the worst.

—Joe, 28

Fluffy, frilly stuff
I met a cute artsy chick while visiting a friend in San Francisco and invited her to go wine tasting in Napa. While I’m not sure there’s a dress code for wine tasting, she definitely broke some rules: Her ensemble consisted of Sherpa boots and a gigantic wool poodle skirt. I spent the entire evening trying to convince myself that heads were turning because of my date’s stunning beauty, not her hideously fluffy outfit.

—Rob, 26

Athletic gear at non-sporting events
Girls can look adorable in a team jersey, but preferably with sweats or boy shorts. But when we go out at night, it’s better to keep the 88-covered sports gear at home.

—Rick, 39

Glitzy, trendy overkill
I met this amazingly attractive girl at a concert, but on our first actual date, she showed up in the skimpiest jean shorts, leather high-heeled boots, a shiny tube top and—the clincher—sparkly flesh-color leggings. I was totally embarrassed because this date was a daytime lunch outing, not a night on the town! The thigh bling is what really killed it.

—Vincent, 38

12 Secret Signs He's Into You

Got this from here. Just for fun.

He does it your way.
“Cole makes the bed the way I like it—no creases, no sheets hang-ing out, pillows plumped up just right. When I come home, no matter what kind of day I’ve had, it makes me feel happy and adored.”
—Joy Blocksma Edwards, 25, Portland, Ore.

He texts you back intwoseconds (and not just for sex).
“A flirt buddy of mine always texts me cute little notes throughout the day. And he responds to me ASAP!”
—Jan Marsh, 33, Brooklyn

He’s known to treat you like a lady.
“I love it when my guy opens my car door, walks on the outside of the sidewalk and shields me from the snow—chivalry is not dead.”
—Mandi Katherine, 27, Chicago

He likes you better as is.
“My boyfriend likes my blond eyelashes so much that he hates when I wear that ‘eye stuff’ commonly known as mascara.”
—Emily Samuels, 23, Atlanta

He takes one for the team.
“My guy sometimes has tea with me at one of those froufrou tea houses where the china and sandwiches are tiny and there are flowers on everything. All the women are wearing nice outfits, and there he is in his Batman shirt.”
—Crystal Maynard, 31, Belcamp, Md.

He wants to please you in bed….
“My boyfriend isn’t intimidated in the least by my vibrator. In fact, he’s the one who suggested we bring it to bed with us. Love it!”
—Joanna Pricilla, 32, New York City

…and he’s romantic in bed too.
“My boyfriend looks deep in my eyes when we’re having sex. It’s incredibly intimate and hot at the same time.”
—Erica Haenselman, 26, Miami

He likes to show you off.
“Now that I’ve graduated from med school, I love the proud look on my husband’s face when he introduces me to people and tells them I’m a doctor.”
—Janette McVey, 26, Columbia, Mo.

He believes in your dreams.
“When I talk about plans to focus on my career and not stay home when I have kids, my boyfriend says he’ll totally be Mr. Mom. He fully believes in my ability to support a family in the same way he could.”
—Kristin Koch, 26, Park City, Utah

He makes an ass of himself.
“My guy will try things I like even if he finds them torturous, like Pilates. He’s about as flexible as a dead tree branch, and I spent half the class we took laughing at him, but he stuck with it.”
—Ivy Hughes, 27, East Lansing, Mich.

He indulges you.
“My husband walks two blocks to Starbucks for my coffee every morning. I’m not sure if he does it because he loves me or because he’s afraid of me before I have coffee, but it makes my day.”
—Jessica Lane Van Nest, 26, Norfolk, Va.

He DIYs.
“Anyone can go out and buy a Hallmark card, but when Adam takes the time to make me one—even if it’s just with pen and computer paper—I’m floored by how incredibly sweet it is. I know he cares enough to send the real very best.”
—Lauren Love, 31, Starkville, Miss.

Why Guys Dump Girls They Dig

Got this from MSN Lifestyle. Thought I'd share it.

Chances are, you've had at least one breakup that left you wondering, "What the heck just happened?" The guy dug you, you dug him, and the whole thing felt
destined for a fabulous future — at least the foreseeable one. Then, out of nowhere, he bailed on the relationship.

So what went wrong? The sad truth is, maybe nothing. Here are five completely ridiculous reasons guys kick you to the curb. Warning: For the most part, it ain't pretty.

1. The Timing Is Off
Women get serious when they meet the right man. Men get serious with whomever we happen to be dating when we're finally ready to settle down. That means after every other aspect of our life is in order — whether it's finishing grad school, finally pulling down a good-size paycheck, owning a car outright — or when our friends start dropping like flies (that's guyspeak for getting married).

But if you catch a guy before he hits that magical stage of his life, then he's liable to bolt — like Patrick,* 28, who dumped Bridgett after two years, then got engaged to the next girl he dated after only 10 months. "When I was with Bridgett, all of my friends were single and I was still an intern with nothing going on in my career. So every time she'd bring up our future together, it felt like she was jumping the gun," he says. "I didn't break up with her because she was wrong for me. I ended it because I didn't want to commit to anyone right then. But by the time I met Elizabeth, I was in a settling-down frame of mind."

2. We're Not Finished Playing the Field
Men are natural-born one-uppers. If there's a possibility of upgrading what we already have for something better (that'll make our friends drool), we say, bring it on! So we wind up always wondering if you're really as good as it gets. (I know, scumbag mentality.) "Whenever I meet a new hot chick, I consider what it would be like to date her, even if I have a girlfriend at the time," says Andy, 30. "The grass is always greener. No matter how great his current girl is, a guy doesn't want to feel like he's missing out."

In addition to our opportunistic tendencies, most guys feel compelled to put as many sexual conquests under their belts as possible. "I admit it — I know the exact number of girls I've slept with, no mental calculation required," says Dan, 29. "That's how aware I am of how many notches I have. And I'd never commit until I felt like I'd experienced enough different women."

Every guy's definition of enough is different, so there's a chance he wrote you off just because you didn't come late enough on his own personal hit list. The moral of the story: Until we grow up, mark everything off our sexual checklists or have too many friends convince us that we can't do better than you, the flight risk is real.

3. We're Fixated on the Worst-Case Scenario
From the times you chastise us for leaving a wet towel on the bed to those nights you rip through a pint of fudge ripple without stopping to breathe, we file each incident in a mental folder labeled "Evidence She'll Change for the Worse." We flip through that file whenever we're trying to decide if we want to hang on to the relationship. Blame our married friends who took the plunge before us, but many single guys are hyperaware of what could go wrong down the road.

Even if we're crazy about you now, we panic that you'll pack on the pounds, want sex only once a month and nag us day and night. So we secretly flag certain things we're scared might be a harbinger of bad things to come. "I've seen it happen to too many of my friends," says Elliot, 29. "All they do is complain about how the sex takes a total nosedive after they get serious with a girl. So sometimes, even if the woman I'm dating is a saucy little minx, I freak out and bail."

4.We're in Like, Not in Love
It's harsh but true. In fact, it's probably the most common reason we bolt. Just because a guy likes you a lot isn't a guarantee that it will evolve into love. And we're surprisingly intuitive when it comes to figuring out a girl's potential on this front. "I stayed with one woman for two years because the sex was great and she never pushed the issue, but I knew the minute I met her that she wasn't The One," says David, 30.

So why do we invest any time in a relationship that we know will ultimately end? Because we're able to live in the moment for a while and chalk it up to a good experience. But once you show that you're way more into us than we are into you, we'll dump you out of guilt. "I dated this girl for about a year, but as soon as she started using the L word, I had to end it," recalls Jay, 29. "It was hard. I cared about her and didn't want to hurt her. But I knew that if I stuck around, she'd have been happier at first but miserable later on. After all, she deserved to be with someone who loved her as much as she loved me."

5. We're Too into You
Just when you thought it was all bad news, here's a hard-to-fess-up admission: Guys are protective of their emotions. Translation: We're scared spitless of being hurt. So, if we start to feel like we're getting into a situation where we'll be destroyed if you dump us, we might launch a preemptive strike and yank the plug first.

For Gary, 27, showing his girlfriend of two years the exit felt like the only choice. "She was the first girl I was serious with, and I didn't like letting someone have that much power over me. I was starting to feel emotionally needy, and that was uncomfortable for me," he recalls. "So I ditched her to save myself!"

Sounds crazy, but cut us some slack. Think about how vulnerable and paranoid you feel when you're nuts about a guy, and realize that we go through the same thing with girls we really like. But our friends aren't as good at helping us get over an ex as yours are, plus being openly heartbroken makes us look like wusses. Nope, it's better to act like a winner before you turn us into a loser, which is when our natural self-preservation may come into play. Before the real humiliation and pain assail us like a plague, ending the relationship seems like a good option.

Are You About to Be Jilted? Signs that your man's getting ready to bail:

His cell phone is always off. He might be spending time with someone he doesn't want you to know about ... or he just doesn't want to make himself available.

He's reluctant to make plans. If he hems and haws about committing to anything — even if it's in the semi-near future — he's thinking about making a break for it.

He's meaner. The passive-aggressive breakup is a guy standby. Some men intentionally turn into a-holes to make sure you break up with them.

He's not into sex. He doesn't want to feel connected to you — or he's getting his needs filled somewhere else.

Thursday, June 10, 2010 | By: BlackGargie

Everyday is A Wonderworld

It feels so good to be needed.


Ever since I've left the job at my 2nd sister-in-law's place and took up the offer my best friend/family friend's boss gave me, my life has been pretty much uphill.


Basically I am an admin assistant in a jack-of-all-trades (mostly technology and medical equipment) company, a secretary to everybody. I have to follow up things, help out with misc. stuff, maybe even clean up after everyone.


I'm fine with it. In fact it makes me feel useful and needed.


Most of the time, I am required to keep track 0f events going on around the office and make tons of follow-ups. I also need to answer calls and help take messages just in case the person that the caller need to find is not in. Basically, yeah, secretary/jill-of-all-trades (if there even is such a term).


It's a pretty cool job. Flexible and whatnot. You're allowed to do whatever you want (common sense speaking) as long as you get the job done and know what your priority is. It's almost like one of those "Get it done by all means necessary" and "The end justifies the means" kind of thing. As long as you can finish the job as required by the deadline, you can surf or chat however long you want online or whatever it is you're doing.


For the moment, since I'm still under probation and under familirization and surveillance, I have to try and make myself at home in the office and do my best to pass probation. When I was being trained by the previous girl before she left, I was pretty much left with half of what I should know and then it's all man for himself. So I have to pick up the pieces of what the previous girl has left and pick up her mess, and then work on my tempo from there.


I've got started with the usual secretarial tasks and whatnot, and even made the effort to clean the pantry so that it'll be easier for everyone to access it. I might try to go 'mother hen' on other things as well, but one step at the time. There may be times where I have to expect challenging tasks ahead, but at the moment, still confined within the office grounds and need people to drive me around because I still can't drive or gotten my driving license yet (unless you wanna get a brand new company car, feel free to allow me to ram it against a tree).


Just recently have been doing a tender with my best friend, so had my first taste of staying back late in the office to finish our stuff, and it was all the way till almost 12 midnight! God, I hope I get paid overtime for this. But of course, the next day, after wrapping things up and going around getting all the stuff we need, thanks to teamwork, we made it in real good time, an hour before the due time and date, and it was satisfying to see a job well done.

At the moment, still learning the ropes and getting the hang of things, and also at the same time try to get my driving license so that I can multi-task some more, so hopefully, by the end of probation, I passed the test and be able to get incremented more and make my work in this company worthwhile.

In fact, I'm gonna work so hard, they can't survive without me! LOL~!
Wednesday, June 9, 2010 | By: BlackGargie

Paper Dolls Mania

I was bored one time and decided to indulge in my childhood playtime, which is dress up dolls. So I went to those online games website and played around with several types of dress-up games and came up soon with these lot. XD Just thought I'd share it with you guys for fun.